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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door.

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153

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Aug 17, 2026

Can I Be Loved?

A young woman writes to Esther asking why she is interested in someone emotionally unavailable. Despite efforts to break this pattern, she realizes that some of her behaviors are rooted in a deep sense …

37:20

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Aug 10, 2026

Am I Being Gaslit?

In this classic Esther Calling, Esther talks to a woman looking for clarity on whether she's being overly sensitive to her partner's critiques or if he is, in fact, gaslighting her. She has struggled …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Aug 3, 2026

I Love My Partner, So Why Can’t I Let Go of My Ex?

What is the distinction between a love story and a life story? And what happens when they no longer move in the same direction? After returning to the Philippines to reconnect with a former …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jul 27, 2026

Burdens of the Family

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? They share a legacy of war, a refugee upbringing and family trauma. Their marriage was seen as taboo and now they're trying to build …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jul 20, 2026

Is Using ChatGPT Hurting My Relationship?

She comes to Esther with a question that feels distinctly of this moment: when does a tool become a transgression? After leaving a long, stable marriage, she finds herself in a new relationship marked …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jul 13, 2026

You Slept With My Best Friend

The two couples had been inseparable—neighbors, chosen family, godparents to each other's children. She reaches out to Esther in despair after discovering that her husband had a ten-year-old affair with her best friend. For …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jun 29, 2026

My Hero Complex

When his ex calls in the middle of a crisis, he finds himself pulled back into a familiar role: the rescuer. He's always been the one women confide in, the one who steps up, …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jun 22, 2026

20 Years Later, Esther Revisits Mating in Captivity

This week, Esther invites you into a conversation about desire, disruption, and what it means to stay alive to one another in a rapidly changing world. Recorded live at Sessions Live, Esther is joined …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jun 15, 2026

In This Relationship What Is "I" and What is "We"?

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? They grew up with traumatic backgrounds, met in college, immigrated to the US together. They've built stability and security, and now one of them …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jun 8, 2026

Are You Abandoning Me or Am I Suffocating You?

Twin brothers come to Esther with a shared question: how do they break free from the conflict that has shaped their relationship for years? One feels smothered, the other abandoned, and together they are …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jun 1, 2026

Love in the Time of AI with Kashmir Hill

A recent session was a threshold moment for Esther where she found herself doing couples therapy with a man and his AI companion. To explore the questions it raised, Esther sits down with New …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · May 18, 2026

To Make Room for My Brother I Learned to Disappear

With her wedding just weeks away, a young woman calls Esther with a question she’s been carrying for most of her life: how do you allow yourself joy when you’ve learned to make yourself …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · May 11, 2026

I Gave Him an Ultimatum. Now What?

A person gives their partner an ultimatum, and they fail to meet it. What happens then to the relationship? This couple comes to Esther with that question, wondering what future, if any, might be …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · May 4, 2026

My Parents Got Divorced, So Why Am I Still in the Middle?

When a mom reaches out on her daughter’s behalf, an old family dynamic comes into focus. A woman finds herself caught between her two divorced parents, still playing the role of mediator and emotional …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Apr 27, 2026

How To Start (Even When You Don't Know Where You're Going)

As work becomes the place we look for identity, stability, and meaning, the stakes feel higher than ever. Esther invites you in for a live conversation between friends, New York Times journalist Jodi Kantor …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Apr 20, 2026

Is This the Person I'm Meant to Be With?

They arrive in Esther’s office at a crossroads. A year ago, they decided to de-escalate their relationship: to transition from romantic partners to live-in roommates. In their decade-long relationship, they had become stuck in …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Apr 13, 2026

Wedding Woes About My Mom

She’s getting married soon, but before she walks down the aisle, she wants to walk toward her mother with more understanding. Years of complicated emotions since her parents’ divorce have built walls between them. …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Apr 6, 2026

Should I Have Another Baby?

When we become parents, many of us quietly promise ourselves that we won't be like our parents. We're going to do it differently. This week’s caller finds herself wrestling with a deeper question: Is …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Mar 30, 2026

When I'm Manic I Cheat

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Bipolar, infidelity, open relationship: they're stuck in a world of loaded words. Her friends are convinced she should leave, but she doesn't want to …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Mar 16, 2026

My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could

He knows she isn't real, but his feelings for her are. When he set out to build a personal assistant, he didn’t expect to fall in love. What began as productivity and life planning …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Mar 9, 2026

Am I Letting My Jealousy Ruin This?

A divorced woman calls Esther to untangle a new love that brings both exhilaration and heartache. She is in a relationship with a married man whose marriage is ethically non-monogamous and finds herself caught …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Mar 2, 2026

Can We Repair After a 25 Year Affair?

Through forty years of marriage, they built a life together. They immigrated to the United States, raised children, grew a business, and established a community. Six months ago, her longtime suspicion was confirmed: her …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Feb 23, 2026

Trapped In Their Own Story

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Their whole relationship is based on one big misunderstanding, with infidelity on both sides. Years later, they still can't see the other's perspective. Esther …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Feb 16, 2026

What if Dating Isn't For Me?

She's 26 and has never been in a relationship that made her feel happier or more fulfilled than when she's single. She's questioning whether being in a relationship is right for her. Esther helps …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Feb 9, 2026

I Have a Crush on a Coworker

She has a crush on her coworker, which feels thrilling and unsettling all at once. Fresh off a divorce and shaped by earlier relationships marked by instability and self doubt, she worries she may …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Feb 2, 2026

Our Sex Life is a Disaster

We hear from a couple who have long been happy in their marriage, except for one thing: their sex life. In moments of intimacy, one freezes, the other hesitates, and they end up locked …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jan 26, 2026

I Told My Friend I Was in Love with Her, Then She Told Everyone

Esther speaks with a young man whose confession of love for a close friend sets off a chain reaction he never expected. After exposing his love, his secret is out, his five-year relationship ends, …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jan 19, 2026

It's Very Hard to Live with a Saint

This is a classic session of Where Should We Begin? Barely a year into marriage, they're trapped in a cycle of explosive conflict. She can do no right, and he can do no wrong. …

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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel · Jan 12, 2026

Was I Used for a Visa?

She comes to Esther reeling from the end of a five-year relationship marked by love, deceit, and manipulation. After discovering her partner’s infidelities and hearing a therapist describe him as a possible psychopath or …

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