Ep 25: Gracefully Navigating Negativity, Haters + Not Being Liked

Sept. 25, 2019

We want to be liked. But none of us like everyone one else. So it makes sense we aren’t going to be the exception. Yet most of us still wish we were! This is why it’s so hard to get negative criticism. 

Today we talked about why haters hate. One thing I’ve discovered is that it’s a defense mechanism because hurt people hurt. It’s a way to make sure people don’t get too close. And they continue to self-sabotage because changing is a whole new discomfort like we talked about in Ep 3: Your #1 Issue and the 3 stages of ish.  

In this episode I share 7 steps to be less affected by negativity:

1. Notice criticism of others to see how ridiculous it is.
2. Share when it happens to you, so others know they aren’t alone.
3. Delete. Or reply calmly + confidently. Eventually block.
4. Give 10x the love.
5. Give even more of exactly what you were criticized for.
6. Grow in confidence by growing in experience.
7. Focus on people who are sharing love.

Let’s continue the convo on Instagram @HilaryRushford.

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