Elevating Early Childhood

How to Say “No” to Preschoolers Without Meltdowns

Jan. 23, 2023

Friends, I have a question for you: Do you ever dread saying no to your students because you’re worried they might have a full on meltdown?

I get you, I’ve been there too. 

Trying to say “no” to a child without having them throw a temper tantrum is a whoooole lot of work.

In simpler words, it’s hard. 

But as you know if you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, it’s not impossible!

Every preschool classroom problem has a solution. Yes, even this one.

And to discuss this, the brilliant Dr. Carolyn Bobb-Green is back on the podcast for a second episode of the Behavior Bites series.

Today, she’ll be sharing with us why those meltdowns happen, how to prevent them, and what to do in case one of your students decides to go full Hulk anyway.

Are you ready?

Let’s dive in!


Key Takeaways:

How to say “no” to your students without meltdowns (00:00)

Why children hate being told the word “No” (02:52)

Why we need to teach children to deal with their emotions (07:48)

How to say “no” without saying “no” (11:38)

A real life example (17:13)

The tools you can use to avoid meltdowns (24:09)

A quick review (29:22)


Additional Resources:

- Got a burning question for Vanessa? Get your answer on the Elevating Early Childhood podcast here.

- Visit our website to find tons of pre-K teaching resources here.

- Get my book “Teach Smarter: Literacy Strategies for Early Childhood Teachers”.

- Learn more about my exclusive mentorship program, “Teaching Trailblazers”.

- Learn more about Dr. Carolyn Bobb-Green’s work here.

- Follow Training U To Succeed on Instagram here.

- Follow Training U To Succeed on Facebook here.


Elevating Early Childhood is an early education podcast dedicated to helping Pre-K, Preschool, and Kindergarten teachers teach better, save time, and live more.

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