Dear Son,

Dear Son, It Isn’t What It Looks Like | The Dear Son, Show | Ep 73 #fatherhood #parenting

July 4, 2023

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Dear Son, It isn’t what it looks like! Sometimes we see things and people how they are presented to us, not knowing what is really happening at the core. We live in a microwave, celebratory, highlight reel of a world. Our timelines are constantly flooded with unimaginable lifestyles, wins, and “goals” that shape how we view and value success.  

Comparison has been stealing joy for centuries. It may be more pronounced at different stages of life, but it is always potentially there. Think about the elementary school kid that wants the gaming system that some of his classmates have. Perhaps the high school teen wishes she had style like the homecoming queen. There was a period where I compared my success to peers that reached a level that I had not. 

It's important to focus on your path. There will be parts of the journey that won’t look like what you envisioned, and you may not understand it in the moment. In those moments, don’t start measuring your success based on someone else’s path. Your experiences are shaping your story and uniquely qualifies you to impact the world in a way that can be substituted or duplicated. Remember, at the party, not everyone is celebrating. Some are just trying to temporarily escape the chaos that haunts them daily. When the music is pumping and the drinks are flowing, it all looks the same. Mind your envy.

We learned quite about ourselves during this dialogue, and that’s typical. Hopefully, a point or two will prompt you to have similar meaningful discussions in your home. We highly recommend that you consume the entire episode for the best results. Also, meet us in the comments or tag us with your opinion on social media via the links below. As always, we welcome your perspective. It takes a village. 

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