May 2, 2016
Have you ever had a goal that you worked really hard at only to wonder where your results went? Well, the reason you’ve felt this way is because of things called Insidious Killers of Success. Insidious means something that is barely noticeable, and Insidious Killers of Success are things that often times happen without us even realizing it and it can be extremely damaging. The Insidious Killers of Success
The analogy that you plant a seed into your garden, wait patiently for something to happen with no results, then dig up the seed to check and see if something will happen, only to have to rebury it and start the process over again. The seed will not sprout unless you leave it buried. The Law of Gestation says that everything (even and especially our goals) need a gestation or incubation period to fully form.
Somebody once asked Ernest Hemingway how to write a novel and he replied, “First you defrost the refrigerator.” We all place unnecessary obstacles in front of ourselves to avoid doing what really needs to be done, so ask yourself: Do I really need to do it that way? Does it really need to take that long? Remember that chances are you’re not the first person to try what you’re trying to do, so research others who have tried it and skip past the beginning obstacles they had to go through first.
Having a challenging routine is okay, but having an unsustainable routine is not. Success is usually associated with hard work (which is good), but it can also be associated with unrealistic restrictions on yourself and that isn’t necessary. For example, Frederick Eklund, the most successful real estate agent in New York City, works Monday through Friday and only half of Sunday to give himself time for himself. Don’t stop sleeping, don’t stop taking care of yourself, and don’t stop doing things like paying bills or spending time with family because these will lead to a burn out and that is not sustainable.
We are often times comfortable in our discomfort meaning that regardless of how comfortable things may be now, we would rather go through the pain of keeping this the same than go through the pain of change. How to fix this: Get in touch with the internal dialogue when you’re trying to do something (the one that says it’s okay to have that extra slice of cake when you’re on a diet) and learn how to tune it out. Get a coach or someone to hold you accountable to your word because sometimes we can’t see what other people see. Visualize a better future for yourself and deal with the discomfort to make it a reality.
When you can understand, overcome, and eliminate these things, you will be able to eliminate the Four Insidious Killers of Success.