January 21, 2026

The One That Got Away…Is Back #HMAY Ep. 276

Have you ever had a “what if” person… and you can’t tell if it’s God’s timing or an emotional trap?In this episode, a listener writes in about a seven-year friendship that keeps circling back into something deeper. They’ve never kissed, she’s been abstinent for five years, and now — for the first time — their timing finally aligns to explore a relationship. But she’s torn: he’s warm, patient, and makes her feel safe… yet she’s afraid she’s been living more in fantasy than reality.They’re long-distance, both navigating ADHD, and she’s trying to rebuild her faith while also wanting a partner who can lead spiritually — without performing faith just to keep her. So the real question becomes: is love and safety enough to take the risk, or is this a distraction that could derail her growth?We talk about how to move forward with wisdom, how to check your “sober mind” when you’re already emotionally invested, and why you can’t keep someone in your life as a permanent what-if.✨ What You’ll Hear Izzy’s letter to Glen after Sydney’s passing (bring tissues)Release Rest Remain update + the YouVersion Bible reading planListener email: the long-distance “what if” friendship turning seriousADHD, consistency, and what love looks like in real lifeFaith alignment, spiritual leadership, and moving with a sober mindWhy “love is a risk” — and how to take it wiselyParenting + marriage questions: balance, devotionals, and real-life routines💬 Join the ConversationHave you ever carried a “what if” relationship for years?What helped you decide to risk it — or finally let it go?❤️ If This Helped YouLike the video, subscribe, and share it with someone navigating long-distance love, boundaries, and faith alignment.📚 Resources & LinksFather Yourself Firsthttps://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555Release Rest Remainhttps://a.co/d/ihBmSdORelease Rest Remain Bible Reading Planhttps://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/64646Premarital Advantagehttps://howmarriedareyoupodcast.mykajabi.com/offers/VAbsx8N2Saturday Men’s Group (Black men, 7 a.m. PT)https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81971875325?pwd=cY3k96A8j1b0WMLPHF5ym0bNSNaRdj.1Patreon Communityhttps://www.patreon.com/HMAYYvette’s Email Listhttps://yvettehenry.com/join-the-listThe Biggest Story Affiliate links mentioned in this episodehttps://bit.ly/3Lx0Ipbhttps://bit.ly/4qz1IIZhttps://bit.ly/3NDgUG1HMAY Amazon Storefront (affiliate)https://www.amazon.com/shop/howmarriedareyou?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_0EGMQR9KJ94D8YGCDMV7&language;=en-US

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